Resiliency- the ability to bounce back, stronger than ever after a trauma, tragedy or personal crisis.
Semper Gumby- Always Flexible
Within the military community we often hear these terms thrown around. “Military spouses, children and the service member’s themselves, are so resilient.” AND WE ARE. This lifestyle requires: flexibility, adaptability, and thriving in constant change. We know how to “hurry up and wait,” and “roll with the punches.” All great items to put on our resume. But what happens when we are at a point when being resilient is more than we can handle? What happens when if we are asked to bend just one more time we might just break? What happens when our bounce reduces to a thud?
We all have a point, the point to which we need a break- not a lets go on a vacation break, nor an “I am losing my mind” kind of break. A break in the sense of a helping hand. Your point doesn’t have to be on going, it can be episodic or circumstantial- but you have a “point” and so do I. And yet, within the military culture we are under the common misconception that asking for help is like saying we can’t handle it, because we are weak. Our shoulders should be so wide as to carry the world, our structure so sound that we are load bearing, our trunk of life so strong that we don’t need the support of a root system.
But we have access to a support system, root system, shoulders- whether we ask for their use or not; they are there. There are is an array of resources that can help when you reach “the point.” You may feel that you are weak by asking for such support, but the truth in the matter is that you are strong. We don’t build muscle by never resting, it is when we rest we give our muscles a chance to rebuild. Our mental health is much the same, if we never take care of ourselves than we aren’t allowing for time to rejuvenate.
So allow yourself time to Bounce Back. Take advantage of the resources available to you (if you need help locating a service- let me know), that is what they are there for. And consider the possibility of being someone else’s support system, the reward can be two-fold.